Ada Obiako: Some People Will Like You, Others Will Not! Accept It
Well, because they don’t have to.
As much as we hate to accept it, people
have the free will to like or dislike us. No one is required by law
(spiritual or human) to like you. The problem is that most of us can’t
wrap our heads around this notion. Our egos come into play and we start
desiring for everyone to like us.
We automatically feel something is wrong
with us when someone doesn’t like us. And since most of us hate the
discomfort that comes with being disliked, we may feel the need to avoid
it by overcompensating to please others or pretending to agree with
certain beliefs we don’t find true.
It’s OKAY that some people don’t like
you. In all honesty, you should expect it. If everyone likes you, that’s
a problem. There are over 7 billion people on this earth. 7 billion
people from different backgrounds, with different belief systems, and
different priorities in life. The only way everyone would be able to
like you would be if you were to say and do things to please everyone –
which you can’t. (I’ve tried, it’s exhausting.) In many cases, when
people don’t like you it means that you’ve developed CLARITY about your
life and you’ve made it openly evident.
The moment you stand in the truth of who
you are and what you believe, you will automatically create opposition
from the people who do not agree with your beliefs. Surprisingly, there
is an upside to this. The dislike from some folks will help you sort out
which people are like-minded to you and which aren’t. Which people
desire to improve their thoughts, words, actions and which people don’t.
Which people value your input and which people would rather not hear
you speak.
Yes, it can be painful. It can feel like
you are losing – people, specifically. But, what you need to remember
is that there are some people you NEED to lose – even if you don’t want
to. As you grow and mature, there are some relationships you might need
to let go of (maybe just for the time being). There are some people that
are more of a hindrance than a help to your personal and spiritual
growth. There are some people that feed off criticism, judgment,
intolerance, competition, and drama. There are some people you shouldn’t
hang around. There are some people that are doing you a favor by
disliking you.
Yes, I know you want to be considered
the “nice girl” or “nice guy”. I know you want to be praised by everyone
and get along with everyone. I know you don’t want to offend anyone or
ruffle any feathers. I know you want a spotless reputation. I hate to
break it to you but that’s not going to happen. We all have people who
don’t like us. You are not exempt. Even the Dalai Lama has people who
dislike him. Now this is a man who lives spreading a message of peace
and compassion yet there are still people who don’t like him – some hate
him!
What more do I need to say?
Some people will like you, some people
will not. Accept it, drop your ego, stand and work earnestly in what you
believe (no matter who is or isn’t standing beside you), and choose joy
in your life…always.
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